Blaming Disney, Marvel, or DC for one's high expectations of men makes as much sense as blaming Wonder Woman for one's unrealistic expectations of women! Fiction is meant to be anything, even unrealistic, real life is a whole other matter!
Look at these amazing actors. Look at the actors' eyes and then at the characters. (Might as well ignore the top; I don't know why they gave Tony Stark two pictures of himself but they're the same.) The actors look playful, but then when in character they are suddenly so changed.....look at Captain America - so starkly different from the fun loving Chris. LOOK AT TOM SMIRKING